Adopt a Puzzle Piece and Help us Bring Home 'D Baby!!!

****UPDATE**** August 13 - We are making progress!  Thank you to those who have given already!  We wanted to update on the numbers that have been spoken for as of today (July 25).  Those numbers are: 1-8, 10-27, 29-31, 39, 45, 50-52, 57, 80, 88, 100, 106, 127, 173, 230 and 297-300.  All others are still available!  Thanks again!

We are finally finished with most of the paperwork!!!  We just got word today that we are officially active!!!  This is the time we have been waiting for!  We now wait for the situation God's designed for us to come along!  Thank you all for your prayer and support through this process.  Keep it up!

Now here comes the really hard part.  We have prayed about this for quite some time.  For those of you familiar with adoption or who have adopted, you understand the financial hurdle (details below).  This has been the one constant that has concerned us most from the beginning. However, we know God will take care of this hurdle.  For many, it is the one thing that keeps them from adopting at all.  The costs add up so quickly.

We really prayed hard about how to financially make it possible. We have saved ourselves, but there’s no way for us to be able to save enough. We have applied for grants and will hopefully receive some of those, but it isn’t guaranteed. At times, our pride has made us feel like we need to do this all on our own and prevented us from asking for help.  Over the last several months, people began asking how they could help us and we just kept telling everyone to pray. We didn’t realize that God wanted to use others to bless us. People wanted to pray, but they also wanted to do more. 

We were too ashamed to ask for help financially, until one person said to us, “You know, you need to realize that it’s a blessing for people to be able to help you some financially in this journey, and by not allowing them to help, you’re not allowing them to experience that blessing.”

That completely changed our perspective.  We then realized that so many people wanted to help out.  Some who have been praying for years along with us to have children, some who may not be in a place themselves to adopt, and some who simply wanted to reach out a helping hand.

So, with humble hearts, we ask for help.  There is no easy or elegant way to say that we cannot do this alone.  We need you.

So, how can you help?  Adopt a Puzzle Piece!  We have puzzle pieces numbered 1-300.  Each number represents that corresponding dollar amount (ex., #1 is $1, #157 is $157, etc.).  We are asking everyone to adopt a numbered puzzle piece and give that amount.  You can adopt a combination of numbers or even adopt a number as a group or family.  Each person will receive a puzzle piece (or pieces if you adopt more than one) as a keepsake and prayer token to help remember to be in prayer for our soon-to-be growing family!  We will keep this page updated on the available numbers as we go along. (If you have already given through the church, we thank you!!!  If you would like that gift to be applied to a puzzle piece(s), please let us know and we would be happy to do that!)

We will also have a matching puzzle piece that will have your name (family or individual name) on it.  When complete, the puzzle will be hung in a double-sided frame with the picture on one side and the names of all those who gave sacrificially and prayerfully for this child to be in our arms.

How do you give?  There are a couple options.  We have set up a PayPal account for those who would like to give electronically (Donate below).  You can also give directly with a check via mail, which is the preferred method (email us at bringinghomedbaby@gmail.com for our home address).  All amounts are appreciated.  This would not be possible without you!  Thank you in advance for blessing us through your outstretched hand!

So why does it cost so much?  Well, that is a good question.  Our situation could be as much as $40,000 plus $5,000 for consulting and home study fees, totaling $45,000.  Here is a breakdown of average costs for a domestic adoption (these are estimates, not exact):

Adoption Consultants/Referral Firm -  $3,500

Home Study - $1,500

Agency Fees - $15,000

Court/Legal Fees - $2,000 - $4,000

Documentation - $500

Birth mother expenses - $5,000

Hospital/Health expenses - $10,000 - $15,000

Travel/Hotel expenses - $3,000 - $5,000

Post Placement fees - $500

Miscellaneous - $500 - $5,000

It is hard to be exact because every situation is so different.  Of course, we pray it will be as inexpensive as possible, but that is out of our control.  If you have any questions or would like more details or clarification, please don’t hesitate to contact us at bringinghomedbaby@gmail.com.

Our Story

Just over five years ago, I was blessed to marry the love of my life.  She is far better than I deserve and I still wonder how I got so lucky and if she will ever realize how much she got ripped off!  I Thank God for her and I cannot wait to see where God leads our lives in the many years to come.

I wanted to share a little more about our journey to adoption so that through our story, others may find strength. Over four years ago, Caitlin and I decided to start trying to begin having a family.  We quickly began to realize things weren't exactly right.  We sought medical advice and prayed a lot.  Finally, months later, we found out we were pregnant.  We were beyond excited!  We were even far enough along to get to see the baby and watch and hear the heartbeat.  We shared with our families and they were so happy.  Then a few weeks later, we knew something was wrong and immediately went in to the doctor where we were told we had lost the baby. Devastation didn't begin to express how we felt.  

We then began the life-long journey of healing.  

We will always mourn the loss of our first child, but we seek joy in the trial (James 1:2-4).  I have found the experience to be helpful in ministry.  I (and Caitlin) have been able to relate to people with similar struggles on a level that others simply cannot. We also realize there are so many others who have suffered similar losses and ours is no worse than those. We want to share our story to help shake the stigma of shame that miscarriage seems to carry along with it.

Revelation 12:11a says, “And they overcame him (Satan) because of the blood of the Lamb, and because of the word of their testimony.”

My prayer is that our testimony will help others; that through our struggle and journey of faith, others will gain faith as well.  I pray that God uses us to help others for years to come.

After the loss, we sought fertility specialists and tried hormone treatments for months with no results.  After much prayer, Caitlin and I felt that we needed to stop the treatments and just give it to God.  We have not been able to get pregnant since the miscarriage, but we have faith that God is in control and will bless us in His time.  

We had always discussed adoption, but until last year, we were never both ready at the same time.  Then, suddenly, in December of 2014, God convicted us both and we just knew it was the right time and we began the adoption process.  We haven't given up on having biological children, but that is all up to God and His perfect timing.  We are called now to adopt and we are so thankful that God has called us to do so.

Of course, for those of you familiar with adoption at all already know this, but our biggest obstacle is the financial hurdle ahead.  We will share more about that soon.  Until then, please pray specifically for the health of our future children, health of the birth mother, and finances.  Thank you so much!

God Bless,

Jason

Welcome to our Blog!

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Welcome to our blog!

We are not the most tech savvy people, but we knew we needed to share our story.  Our adoption journey is one that many have been on before and one many will take in the future.  Our prayer is that we can be an encouragement to others.  So many people are praying for us and we cannot thank you all enough.  We have tried to keep everyone updated, but for those who have been on this journey, it is difficult to explain because there are just so many steps.  We take big steps forward in the paperwork only to receive more paperwork and more waiting.  So, we thought we could update everyone here as best we can!  Please join us in prayer for this journey!  We cannot wait to meet our baby and can't wait to share him or her with you all!

Soon we will be "Bringing Home 'D Baby!"

God Bless,
Jason & Caitlin

Whichever One Fits...

As many of you know, Jason and I have been praying for a baby for several years and we are so excited about where God is leading us! Adoption is not a second choice, or back-up plan for our family. We wholeheartedly believe that, as Christians, we are called to care for orphans. 

James 1:27 says, "Pure and genuine religion in the sight of God the Father means caring for the orphans and widows in their distress and refusing to let the world corrupt you." For us, this calling is adoption. 

Jason and I have known for years that adoption would eventually be a part of our story. We discussed it off and on, prayed about it seriously, and learned (and are still learning!) to trust in God's perfect timing. Throughout the last year or so, one of us would be totally ready to begin the process, but the other wouldn't, and vice versa.

God began speaking to us both while on a trip with our youth group in December.  A member of one of the bands spoke about their adopted child and we began to truly see adoption for what it should be. While we had been looking at it from our perspective in relation to our wants and our timing, we began to see more clearly how God wanted us to see it. Adoption is part of God’s plan for our lives, in His time. After much prayer and seeking guidance from family and others who have adopted, we are confident that this is God’s perfect timing for this chapter of our lives.

 

Adoption paints a perfect picture of the Gospel! We are excited to have yet another beautiful and personal example of God's love to share with our child. We ask that you continue to pray for us throughout this journey, and most importantly, for the birth mother and our baby. Stay tuned for updates!

"God decided in advance to adopt us into his own family by bringing us to Himself through Jesus Christ. This is what He wanted to do and it gave Him great pleasure. So we praise God for the glorious grace He has poured out on us who belong to His dear Son."
Ephesians 1:5-6

~Caitlin

Jason & Caitlin

Jason & Caitlin

Jason & I met in 2007. He was on staff at the church my Dad had just been called to. We quickly became friends and began dating during my freshmen year of college. After a year of dating, Jason proposed and, of course, I said “yes!”. We were married the following year and we just recently celebrated our 5^th anniversary.

Jason has been serving at Marion Baptist as the youth and worship pastor for over ten years. I currently work for Americorps and I am pursuing my Bachelor’s degree in Middle School Education. We enjoy spending time with our family, friends and youth group students. Jason is adventurous and likes to do anything outdoors. My adventures take place in a shopping mall or a good book. We are both crazy about our Cairn Terrier, Drew. 

~ Caitlin